What if You Can’t Get Through to Him?

If you’ve been following me for awhile, you know I love The Gottman Institute’s research.  John and Julia Gottman have conducted over 40 years of breakthrough studies on marital stability and divorce prediction. The one statistic I seem to quote every week is “there is an 81% chance that a marriage will self-implode when a […]

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Big Feelings and The Worst Thing Ever

The other night, my 13 year old was reminding me that he was still protesting our families decision to have his brother move into the extra bedroom. (I recall coming to a consensus but we’ll agree to disagree.) I was in a crappy mood, trying to be done parenting for the night and he clearly […]

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Back When I had All the Answers to Parenting

I knew exactly how to be a great parent…when I was a kid.  8 year old me said “if my kids want to stop at Dairy Queen- we are stopping!” and “my kids can have as many pets as they want”. I figured out that one the hard way when I looked around at the […]

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Whatever Works for Your Family has to Work

When I started my private practice I wanted to be a safe haven for parents- I wasn’t going to push them to wean or get a babysitter or kick their kids out their bed. I believe in “whatever works for your family” and defend however you choose to feed or care for your baby and […]

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Feelings, Shmeelings, What’s so Great about Feelings?

I have spent my whole life working on being great with feelings- oh, I mean other people’s feelings. My feelings… yeah… maybe that’s a second half of life project. When I was a much younger woman, a guy I was dating argued that the problem was that I whispered my feelings. How was he supposed […]

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Gourmet, all organic, locally sourced sleep

I have sleep on the brain. I have been working on a new sleep workshop  with Leann Latus from Tender Transitions.  (Still room in Sleep-It Does the Family Good, please come.) We are not a culture that values sleep. We act like it is a treat or a sign of weakness or maybe a privilege. For […]

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A Day Without a Woman… or at least this one

The International Women’s Strike on March 8th, 2017 is an international day of action, planned and organized by women in more than 30 different countries.   In the spirit of solidarity and internationalism, in the United States March 8th will be a day of action organized by and for women who have been marginalized and […]

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You Know You Can Tell Me Anything, Right?

“Communication”- when couples come to me for the first time they often report that they have communication issues. “Communication issues” confuses even me. Of course they mostly speak the same language. Mostly they do talk to to each other- they can deal with the kids, the mortgage, the schedule but they can’t seem to have […]

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Fighting for Connection- Minnesota Style

Minnesota nice is the stereotypical behavior of people born and raised in Minnesota to be courteous, reserved, and mild-mannered. I love Minnesota- born and raised here and this week I can’t even hate the weather. I not only specialize in relationship counseling, but after 15 years I now specialize in Minnesotan relationship counseling. If a […]

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Postpartum Depression in Men- Filling those Huge Dad Shoes

Today is only February 9h- I can’t do Valentine’s Day yet. Here are some reruns.  The one about Loving Up Husbands for Valentines Day and the one about Loving Up Wives for Valentine’s Day. For the past 15 years, since my second was born,  I have been fascinated with the process of becoming a parent. Ok, in […]

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