“Right Now, Can You Make an Unconditional Relationship with Yourself?”

I stumbled across this video this week.

I preach taming the voice in your head, that you are either your own best friend or your own worst enemy and most people who are their own best friends have much easier lives. Walking around day and night with your worst enemy bitching at you is exhausting.

I think I’m pretty good at this but that video got me thinking. Unconditional? Maybe not.

The house is never going to be as clean as the voice in my head thinks it should be. I eat crap. I don’t exercise hard enough. I waste way too much time on the Ipad and Netflix.

The kids should be something more, bigger, better, make me look good even though they are absolutely perfect just as they are.

I may have missed that 6 month period in my life when my weight was exactly what I thought it should be. The voice in my head isn’t going to be happy until I look 24, have a perfect hair day and invisible pores.

My finances are not where I think they should be. I should be making 20% more money, out of debt, and living on less. I should never buy anything impulsively. I should be writing more. I should spell check better. Is my website SEO good enough?

It would be one thing if that bitch in my head only messed with my day but she seems to ooze out and impact everyone around me. If our greatest influence on our kids is setting a great example, I’m going to have to get her under control. She is tamed best when I am rested and fed and she usually shuts up when I take her for a walk in the woods.

What if the house is just the way I like it, my finances and my body are a work in process and my kids are not a reflection of my work but a reflection of my love? What if Life Is Good? What if that bitch got her eviction notice and my best friend, cheerleader got to have her room?