Category / emotional intelligence / Holidays / Mindfullness
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When All Else Fails… Remember to Breathe
Lessons from the mat Sometimes I tell my clients that the only reason I work out is so that I can give them hell when they don’t. I am all about integrity. I have a favorite yoga class I try to get to on Monday mornings. It allows me to start my week from a great place both physically and emotionally. The work on my mat is so much like…
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Is Charity the Spirit of the Season?
When I was a moody preteen, I remember my mother stopped to help an elderly couple who seemed to be struggling on an icy Minnesota December day. At the time I was mortified that my meddlesome mother was butting into these strangers’ lives. Turned out they weren’t simply struggling with the ice. We got them home and my mother found their lives, in our “good neighborhood” to be in shambles.…
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2017 Thanksgiving Reflections
One turkey done, another set to go into the oven… part of my Thanksgiving tradition is to write my blog post before anyone gets up in the morning- thinking of the day ahead. The meal is predictable, the family keeps changing. We currently have no babies in our family- the youngest is my 13 year old but my niece is bringing her new puppy… the ones who were the kids…
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Assertive Bill of Rights for the Holiday Season You Choose
I share some version of this every holiday season- for some reason holiday stress seems to be showing up early this year. Healthy attachment is at the core of my work. Attachment is how we want to raise our kids and how we want to be partnered and attachment is why the people we love make us freak out around the holidays. Nobody makes us crazy like the people we…
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This Year’s Mother’s Day Husband Alert
Emergency Husband Alert Network Please share. As 96% of my readers are female it is going to take some effort to reach the super secret husband network. If your children are old enough to have jobs and cars- ignore this warning. Those kids are on their own. If your children are not old enough to drive to Target-please pay attention. Next Sunday is Mother’s Day. I know- it is a…
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Baby New Year is On Its Way
And we know how hard babies can be. I get that ya’ll want to tell 2016 to fuck off but have you given any thought to what 2017 means? Baby New Year is bringing some serious challenges and we’ve got some work to do. The year we’re dumping has revealed much of the dark underside of our culture. Our country is divided, people are frightened and change is not coming…
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My Last Minute Christmas Card
Thank you wonderful community for all you give me each year. You are my audience and my inspiration. I am wrapping the week up early… modeling authentic self care. Remember that those people only make you crazy because you love them. Remember you make someone crazy too. How about I share this lovely poem with you. Christmas at Midlife I am no longer waiting for a special occasion; I burn…
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Light as a feather…. you know how it goes
Wait…is it already December 15th? I have a huge to do list from last weekend I never got to because life got complicated…once again. My Google calendar reminds me every December that I love the holidays and would enjoy them more if I started preparing sooner. Every year I commit to better time management. Every year my lovely husband who has actually known me longer than Google has…says “Yeah, you…
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Making it through the dark nights
Rough week. It is so dark…and getting darker. The winter solstice is still almost 2 weeks away. December 21st we mark the longest night and the fact that they aren’t going to get any shorter. The light wins… every December… so far. While Pagan families mark this season of Yule, Christians celebrate Christmas with lights, our Jewish families celebrate Hanukkah with a menorah and African American families may choose…
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2016 Post Thanksgiving Commentary
Each year I sit down to write my newsletter on Thanksgiving morning before the festivities begin and set it to go out in the evening when the party’s over. Mostly I steal stuff from last years post and tweek it a bit. The best thing about holiday traditions is just how predictable they can be. The first time I took on my family’s turkey duty at my house was 1983-…
