Category / Mindfullness / Relationship Advice
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Trying to Explain ACEs Research in a Post
Talking about childhood trauma and abuse isn’t for everyone… or not always the right time… proceed with caution. When I was a kid, you could go to Sears and you would walk up on this platform and they would measure your feet using an x-ray machine. It was super cool. It was also a really bad idea… what with the cumulative effects of radiation leading to increased risk for cancer.…
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My Magical Google Calendar
This month marks the 10 year anniversary of Notes from a Marriage Geek. I found a way to merge my love of writing with my passion creating great relationships and actually stick with it…a mini miracle. I have never kept a diary or been a journaler. Writing Heal Your Birth Stories actually forced me to write mine. I have a stack of nearly empty blank books on my bedside table…
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Forget Family Balance- We’ve Got Mad Juggling Skills
Today I am keeping 6, maybe 7 balls in the air with some amount of grace. Things that I handled with ease today- laundry, food, getting to the office, the dog, the kids, paying bills. There are slick moments where I flip from home to work to friends, artfully multitasking. I can feel the zone. I have what I need to make dinner. The outfit Zach wants to wear is…
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Reduce-Reuse-Recycle… but mostly Reduce
How did we get into the mess that modern parenting is? Does anyone feel like they’re doing it right? Have we bit off more than we can chew. New, more, better might be sinking us. Many of the parents I work with are buying organic carrots, carrying reusable bags and driving their Prius’ when they aren’t on their bikes. They care and yet the level of consumption continues to go…
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Something Bad is Going to Happen
Our Lives Under Constant (Perceived) Threat We live in a world where the perception of threat is out of proportion to the risks we face. Our brains are super suggestive. We can watch a movie and be terrified one moment, moved to tears the next knowing they are actors telling a story. We choose to play in the world of terror or heartbreak or gruesome or humor. How many murders…
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When All Else Fails… Remember to Breathe
Lessons from the mat Sometimes I tell my clients that the only reason I work out is so that I can give them hell when they don’t. I am all about integrity. I have a favorite yoga class I try to get to on Monday mornings. It allows me to start my week from a great place both physically and emotionally. The work on my mat is so much like…
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2017 Thanksgiving Reflections
One turkey done, another set to go into the oven… part of my Thanksgiving tradition is to write my blog post before anyone gets up in the morning- thinking of the day ahead. The meal is predictable, the family keeps changing. We currently have no babies in our family- the youngest is my 13 year old but my niece is bringing her new puppy… the ones who were the kids…
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Why I Hate November Rerun
This was my personal FB post this morning- “Evidence that I should not be in charge of my own schedule… today I have 7 clients scheduled, Zach’s conferences scheduled over my lunch hour, I am on call for the Helpline…which has been hopping all week, I am committed to posting a blog post before bed and I am in total last minute Expo meltdown mode. The trick is going to…
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A World at Half Staff
How are we supposed to feel? Each day, on my drive to work I watch the seasons change in the colors of the trees. I see the beauty of letting go, of summer losing out to fall and know what comes next. Because I get to cross the river on Cedar most days, it is common for me to see bald eagles. I understand how throughout time, people have chosen…
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Wonder and Delight- inoculate against stress
Anxiety is on my mind this week. Professionally I consider it the common cold of mental health- shows up a lot and responds well to treatment. Lately I have been considering the bigger picture of the huge increase in anxiety we are seeing in both parents and in our kids. Some facts- research shows as much as five to eight times as many high school and college students who meet…
