Notes from a Marriage Geek
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Emotional Resistance as Decolonization
One thing Burning Man showed me was the power of being brave. Stretching. Trying new things. Doing it differently. That kind of boldness fosters vitality. And the world needs us strong right now. This fight isn’t going to be won by muscle — it’s going to be won by heart. Love fiercely. Dig deep. The fight for decolonization isn’t new. White Christian Nationalism is just a backlash — a scared…
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Dust, Storms, and Turmoil: Burning Man’s Surprising Lessons on Love
Surviving “the storm of the century” at Burning Man taught me something wild: the same principles that keep us sane in the desert also keep our relationships thriving.
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Wrapping Up a Hell of a Year
Can I have a moment of your time? Take a minute and review how the holidays have been for you. What worked? What would you do differently? What memories were made? Now- trust me, this is a game changer. Go on your Google calendar. Pick a day before Thanksgiving- I picked the 17th of November 2025. Click Add Task- READ THIS. Now remind future you of all the things you…
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Holiday Family Stress Post 2024
Winter is hitting early in Minnesota this year. We may be doing better than most of the country when it comes to the climate crisis but it can be unpredictable. Like everything else around here… who knows what is coming next?
I wrote this “Assertiveness Bill of Rights” years ago- adapted from a piece by Manuel J. Smith ‘When I say no, I feel guilty’.
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Divorce in the Dystopia
Feminist News posted a (satirical) meme claiming that “Nine male GOP members of Congress have been given divorce papers by their wives since Donald Trump was reelected”. I got excited and shared it before Snopes checking it. Ok- so not true. I so wanted it to be true. I wanted to believe that my Republican sisters had found their voice, their own resistance. And maybe they will. Maybe this is…
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The Resistance Begins Today
2016 Election post Trying to be with my feelings today. I am crushed. Betrayed. Heartbroken. I am hurt and scared. I am pissed. So… I’m leaning into pissed. I am pissed that the election can be controlled by a bunch of people who do not love our country. By people who fear the contributions of immigrants and women and people of color. By people who love power and money more…
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Agitated this week? Who isn’t?
Of course you are. Apparently, half the country would rather we move toward fascism than trust a brilliant woman of color to lead us. The world is unstable. Our climate is unstable, our economy is unstable. We live in a world that centers the needs of billionaires. Women, people of color, immigrant families, the LGBQT community, anyone dealing with a disability, and all their friends and families are not safe…
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I Love Fiercely!
I was dating this guy a few years ago and he asked what I thought my greatest asset was. Without hesitation, I replied, “I love fiercely!” He told me he was thinking more about my legs. We were not on the same planet. If I were going to recommend one book on relationships it would be bell hooks “All About Love: New Visions.” It is a book I return to…
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Writers Block? Maybe Burnout? Or Persistent Drive for Autonomy?
I loved blogging. I did it most Thursdays for over 15 years. Blogging taught me to write and gave me an audience. It led to me offering workshops and becoming a professional speaker. Then I fell off a wall and just couldn’t do it anymore. Read more here. Read my 2019-2024 Season Recap here. I have tried everything to get back to it. I have cleaned my house, transplanted all…
