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Why Valentine’s Day is So Complicated

Most of us were raised by human parents, with their human failings and they raised us with less than perfect emotional responses. Whether they were neglectful or distant or critical or inconsistent or overbearing or intense, there were times when their feelings interfered with their ability to be appropriately responsive to your feelings. (I know- […]

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2017 Bites the Dust

“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.” Henry Ford New Years is an arbitrary holiday when we celebrate the turn of the odometer of our lives and the purchase of a new calendar. We look back at the 12 months passed, what we’ve accomplished, what we’ve lost […]

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‘Tis the season…of let downs, frustrations and too much of everything

Thanks to all of you who are still reading me after the mess I made last week… the whole post I transposed breathe/breath… I get it- you don’t have to be a grammar nazi to have that make your skin crawl. Sometimes my whole purpose in life is to be the poster child for “how […]

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When All Else Fails… Remember to Breathe

Lessons from the mat Sometimes I tell my clients that the only reason I work out is so that I can give them hell when they don’t. I am all about integrity. I have a favorite yoga class I try to get to on Monday mornings. It allows me to start my week from a […]

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Is Charity the Spirit of the Season?

When I was a moody preteen, I remember my mother stopped to help an elderly couple who seemed to be struggling on an icy Minnesota December day. At the time I was mortified that my meddlesome mother was butting into these strangers’ lives. Turned out they weren’t simply struggling with the ice. We got them […]

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2017 Thanksgiving Reflections

One turkey done, another set to go into the oven… part of my Thanksgiving tradition is to write my blog post before anyone gets up in the morning- thinking of the day ahead. The meal is predictable, the family keeps changing. We currently have no babies in our family- the youngest is my 13 year […]

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Assertive Bill of Rights for the Holiday Season You Choose

I share some version of this every holiday season- for some reason holiday stress seems to be showing up early this year. Healthy attachment is at the core of my work. Attachment is how we want to raise our kids and how we want to be partnered and attachment is why the people we love […]

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This Year’s Mother’s Day Husband Alert

Emergency Husband Alert Network Please share. As 96% of my readers are female it is going to take some effort to reach the super secret husband network. If your children are old enough to have jobs and cars- ignore this warning. Those kids are on their own. If your children are not old enough to […]

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Baby New Year is On Its Way

And we know how hard babies can be. I get that ya’ll want to tell 2016 to fuck off but have you given any thought to what 2017 means? Baby New Year is bringing some serious challenges and we’ve got some work to do. The year we’re dumping has revealed much of the dark underside […]

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My Last Minute Christmas Card

Thank you wonderful community for all you give me each year. You are my audience and my inspiration. I am wrapping the week up early… modeling authentic self care. Remember that those people only make you crazy because you love them. Remember you make someone crazy too. How about I share this lovely poem with […]

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