Tag / divorce
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Growth is Kicking My Butt
You might notice that I am writing on Friday, not my usual Thursday. I have been trying to figure out if I should just not post anything and see if anyone notices or recycle an old post. “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” Slap on a happy face and just get it done right? But at my core, this platform is suppose to be about…
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Just a bunch of divorce musings…. When is it time to leave?
(If you see yourself in this week’s newsletter, you’re right…all of you who can’t decide, who want me to tell you what to do, who are waiting for a sign, who are so unhappy that it can’t be good for anyone. This time I really am talking to you…oh but not all of you…) I went to this fantastic training sponsored by Erickson Mediation last week. http://ericksonmediation.com/resources/emi-newsletter/ I trained with…
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Who is Tending Your Marriage?
In my office I have a house plant, a peace lily that I often reference as a metaphor for marriage- it is a plant that is very forgiving of Minnesota darkness and the inconsistent care I give it. This is what Google says it is supposed to look like. And this is mine- and you should have seen how saggy it looked yesterday after I forgot to water it last…
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Do You Have Ugly Money Fights?
Couple’s fight about money. Solving that problem would solve all my money problems but fighting about money will likely follow us to our future very expensive nursing homes. Couples fight about money because money is about justice and care and having a voice and feeling secure. We fight because we’re hurt and scared and we fight because our parents fought about money. Here are a few classic money fights. Financial…
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Sorry- I suck at matchmaking
Occasionally and only rarely, I end up seeing a couple who are in the early stages of their relationship- still deciding if they want to commit/marry. I have to warn them, I am really great at helping couples deepen their commitment, repair relationship damage, help people come to a decision about the recommitting or ending a relationship but I have no idea how to pick em. I just don’t. 15…
