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2017 Thanksgiving Reflections

One turkey done, another set to go into the oven… part of my Thanksgiving tradition is to write my blog post before anyone gets up in the morning- thinking of the day ahead. The meal is predictable, the family keeps changing. We currently have no babies in our family- the youngest is my 13 year […]

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Wonder and Delight- inoculate against stress

Anxiety is on my mind this week. Professionally I consider it the common cold of mental health- shows up a lot and responds well to treatment. Lately I have been considering the bigger picture of the huge increase in anxiety we are seeing in both parents and in our kids. Some facts- research shows as […]

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Big Feelings and The Worst Thing Ever

The other night, my 13 year old was reminding me that he was still protesting our families decision to have his brother move into the extra bedroom. (I recall coming to a consensus but we’ll agree to disagree.) I was in a crappy mood, trying to be done parenting for the night and he clearly […]

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Setting Hard Limits with Love

When we talk about relationships- with our kids or our partners, we can only tell one side of the story. They did this. They said that. I was trained to think systemically- knowing that all behaviors occur inside of relationship.There are no individuals..we are just bumping into fragments of relationships. I listen for what happened […]

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How Prince’s Death Became a Generation’s Midlife Crisis

Last Thursday the news came, on Facebook and in texts, in whispers throughout Minneapolis. Our hometown hero had died. An electric current immediately flashed through me. The file in my brain marked 1980-1984 snapped open and I remembered everything. Music and sightings, deep friendships, and lost loves, and dance, so much dance. Prince is the […]

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Merry Marriage Geek Christmas

The gifts are wrapped. We are heading to the Imax to see Star Wars before Christmas Eve at my dad’s in Bloomington. The fridge is full of food because I host the day tomorrow. So thankful that things are slowing down and my commitment to not being busy has worked this holiday. I acknowledge the […]

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Sorry- Love is Messy

At the core of my professional and my personal life is the belief that all relationships are fueled by a powerful, biologically programed desire for connection. The reason I never run out of work  is that the path to connection looks easy and then makes us come unglued. Everyone walks down the aisle fairly confident […]

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Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

A friend of mine just lost her grandfather and posted an amazing testimony to the positive impact he has had on her life.  It got me thinking about what I expect from the second half of my life. I have hit all the milestone- married, three kids, homeowner, professional. Even my commitment to working out […]

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Heal Your Birth Story Needs Your Help

I finished the book and am now selling the first 300 autographed copies for $25. Funds raised will pay for promotion and advertising. I love my fans and would love to see this book reach the audience who doesn’t have support we have in the Twin Cities. Thanks for all your support and love. This project […]

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Love versus Safety

Love versus safety-This is the dilemma that is marriage.  We want to be loved and connected and appreciated and lusted after and cared for but we also want to be safe.  We don’t want to get our feelings hurt, don’t want to be ignored, neglected, scolded, criticised, misunderstood or rejected. But you can’t have both. […]

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