Tag / interpersonal neurobiology
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Look Deep into My Eyes
The neurobiology of love is a balance between safety and connection. We want to be free from criticism, hurt, disappointment, loss but we crave deep connection…which leaves us vulnerable and unsafe. If things go well in our childhood we learn to balance that vulnerability with the benefits of others, leaning in and trusting that the hurts aren’t too dangerous and the benefits are so good.
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On Solid Ground- Building Trust
Trust– mutual resonance allows shaping and responding to the person we care about while also knowing we are shaping them.
Over time, presence, attunement and resonance create a safe environment. Our relationship becomes a thing- something we count on. Trust is letting go.
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When Things Really Sing- Resonance
Resonance is cohesion and harmony. It shows up when our vulnerability allows us to step into the unknown, the uncertainty of something we haven’t seen before.
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Attunement= Presence + Curiousity
Interpersonal Neurobiology Last week I shared my intro to Interpersonal Neurobiology and the power of Presence…not presents. Interpersonal neurobiology focuses on brain development’s connection to learning, mental health and relationships. I shared Dan Seigel’s acronym for connection- PART Presence, Attunement, Resonance, and Trust. When we connect effectively with someone, we turn on their social engagement system. Engagement allows parents to both impact and learn from their kids, partners to build…
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Our Brains Love Presence…not just presents.
I thought I would take the next couple of blogs and walk through a quick overview of his work on the deep power of connection.
